School has been out for several weeks now and, boy, was the change of pace was welcomed by all! My crew and I love summer time and all that comes with warm weather living.
I, personally, adore change and love the opportunity to create more of our “own” schedule. Although, in many ways, I feel this break and change has been most beneficial for my eldest. Russell had a teacher this past year who was very by the book and seemed to be laser focused on academia. She is a “good” teacher but seemed to excel at teaching to colour inside the lines and didn’t tolerate much deviation from this.
Russell sees life through an incredibly coloured lens, he thrives when looking at the depth of people, places, situations, and things and spends much of his energy thinking and talking about the several movie series (with elaborate plot points) he’s creating. For this incredibly creative and imaginative boy, this classroom environment stifled his spirit and some of his confidence (never mind that she brought into his vocabulary, “shame on you” – something she said to him when he didn’t behave as she wished).
I’m not raising my kids to fit inside a box. My husband and I both shine brightest and feel most comfortable outside of the box. However, I do want them to understand what’s inside it and how to negotiate it. His lack of interest to fit inside of the academic box was seen through “poor listening skills” or him “not paying attention”. As I read over his final report card, which I had no interest in sharing with him, I felt like I was reading about a boy that didn’t sound like the Russell I see, live with, and watch interact with the world. And I was left wanting to offer him some skills and strategies that would invite him to play “this game” and maintain his spirit.
My husband and I brainstormed some strategies to figure out how we can use our skill set to help invite him to shine his brightest and recognize how amazing he is. Among simply letting his free spirit have experiences to be wild and free, one of the ideas I had was to share more meditation with my two eldest littles. Meditation has the power to be truly life changing and is so amazing for helping us:
– Be more comfortable and confident in our bodies
– Awaken our compassion and empathy for self and others
– Improve focus and concentration
– Bring more peace and calm
We began this more conscious practice as soon as school ended and it was positively amazing to watch how much his spirit and sense of self completely changed (even after just a week). Now that four weeks has passed, he’s more himself than ever. It’s pure magic to see his spirit shine in all it’s brightness and remarkable to see how much better he listens and pays attention (for what it’s worth, I would not have said these qualities were deficient but a marked improvement has definitely been noticed!).
I know the meditation practice has been healing and therapeutic for him on so many levels (and for my daughter, too). I believe there are amazing benefits for every human to learn from meditation! Teaching my littles to take this quiet, still time when they’re young feels like a super important foundation – what a beautiful secret ingredient to help them connect to what makes them shine and invite them to step into that with confidence.