With the summer winding down, we can find our schedules begin to ramp up. The list of to-dos’ continue to grow and we can feel powerless to our schedules. We can get so caught up in our “should do’s” and “have to’s” that we lose sight of the fact that we are free to make choices. The freedom of choice is so powerful. We are fortunate enough to live in a society where we can make choices for ourselves every single day.
You might be wondering what I mean by choice. For me, choice ranges from the smallest thing, like deciding what I’m going to say to my husband or children when I wake up in the morning, to the biggest things, like what type of life I want to live. We get to choose what we eat for breakfast, what coffee we want at our favourite coffee shop, what book to read before we settle down for bed. We choose how we respond to the stranger who asks for directions, to our grumpy friend’s angry text message, or to our toddler having a meltdown.
The freedom of choice can feel inhibiting for some and be left unrecognized by others. Choice can scare us. When we start exercising our right to choose, we start carving out our own path, leading our own lives, becoming responsible for our actions.
But, there’s nothing more terrifying than losing your ability to choose. When we start feeling like other people are making choices for us, when we feel like followers rather than leaders in our lives, we feel overwhelmed and can become fearful. We can feel out of control and lose a sense of agency.
We should be fearful of a fearful society. For fear breeds anger, anger breeds hatred, and a sea of unhappiness that no one wants to live with follows suite. In our society, we see the results of fear everywhere.
I believe erasing fear begins with embracing freedom of choice. It begins with how you choose to wake up and how you choose to embrace each day and each moment. These choices translate into how you are choosing to spend your day and week. Then, they eventually translate into how you are choosing to live your life. For some, it’s easier to start with the question: how do I want to live my life? And work back from there. And for others, it’s all about the baby steps and easier to start with: how am I going to live today or in this moment?
We all need to consciously work on choosing positive responses filled with love, joy, and happiness. Once we start choosing love, choosing happiness, choosing bliss or joy, we transform our lives. When we start living a life we love, we stop living in fear.
I talk more about the power of choice in the video below.
Take a peak, especially if you are someone who feels overwhelmed by life’s to dos’, someone who easily conjures up excuses, or if you’re someone who simply wants to be more in touch with your wants and desires and don’t quite know where to start.