I really wish the topic of sleep wasn’t such a polarizing topic among moms – so often it can leave people feeling inadequate or wrong. My approach has always been to remain connected and responsive to what feels best for me and my baby.
Each of my three babes have had different, and some similar, needs around sleep. My first baby slept 7 hours starting night 3 of his life (that stretch only got longer), and he only napped well if he was in the stroller until he went down to one nap per day. My second napped like a champ anywhere (I needed her to) but didn’t sleep more than 2 or 3 hours in a row at night until she was 14 months old. My third is somewhere in between for the night sleeps and naps amazingly if he’s in his crib. All of them love(d) to sleep to the sound of waves, co-slept (for various lengths of time), and prefer being snuggled with a song to sleep.
My wish is that moms will come to a place where judgement is released. Let’s honour our intuitive response for our babies, and be supportive of our individual wisdom/needs as moms.